ADHD-INFORMED INTIMACY COACHING
You don't have a low sex drive and you're not broken.
You have an ADHD brain that nobody taught you how to understand.
I help ADHD women understand why intimacy has become so hard and help them come back to their own bodies, desire, and themselves.
"I wasn't broken, I was overwhelmed &
knowing that bought so much relief."
ABBIE · THE DESIRE RECLAIMED METHOD
THE TRUTH
You're not broken. Your brain just works differently.
You didn't wake up one day and stop wanting sex. It happened slowly... through pressure, stress, mental load, years of going through the motions while the rest of you was somewhere else entirely.
And if you have ADHD, there's something else nobody told you: your brain was making all of this harder. The same system that struggles to focus also struggles to stay present during intimacy. The same brain that gets overloaded by a busy day gets overloaded by touch.
Some ADHD women go completely numb. Some crave sex obsessively because it's the only time their brain goes quiet.
Both are real. Both make sense. And neither means anything is wrong with you.
"What shifted wasn't just sensation — it was permission. Permission to feel without performing."
Naomi · The Erotic Exhale
THE CYCLE
How it starts, what it costs & how it ends.
THE LIE
"If you don’t want sex, something must be wrong with you.”
ADHD women are already carrying more than most people see. The mental load, the masking, the performing capable while running on empty.
Add shame about desire on top of that?! and slowly, you stop listening to your body altogether.
Sex becomes something to get through, not something that's yours.
So you avoid it. Then feel guilty for avoiding it. Your body switches off even more. The distance grows - from intimacy, from pleasure, from yourself. And not because you're broken.
Because nobody gave you the right information about how your brain actually works.
THE COST
Desire was never meant to be forced.
When you understand what's actually happening in your ADHD brain: the dopamine, the sensory overload, the switching off, the obsessive craving... everything shifts.
Not because you tried harder. Because you finally stopped blaming yourself for something that was never your fault.
THE RECLAMATION
Sex matters and not because you owe it to anyone. But because you matter.
Connection matters, desire matters, feeling alive in your own body matters. Pleasure that belongs to YOU and not to obligation, performance or who you're "supposed to be" — matters.
A world full of ADHD women who were never taught how their own desire works was never the goal.
HARD TRUTH
The problem usually isn't your libido. It's that nobody ever explained how your brain works.
Women are taught to please, perform, accommodate, push through, and prioritise everyone else.
Nobody teaches us how desire actually works. And nobody teaches us how it works in an ADHD brain.
So when sex starts feeling numb, heavy, confusing, absent, or completely overwhelming, we assume we're the problem....
BUT We're not the problem. We were just never given the right information.
And that's what Desire Reclaimed exists to change.
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How to work with me
Ready to stop guessing what's wrong and start actually understanding yourself?
This is private 1:1 work. Just you, your body, and finally having the conversation nobody else was willing to have with you.
We work through three stages:
Reconnect — understand why you switch off, go numb, or can't stay present, and how your ADHD brain plays a part.
Rediscover — explore what genuinely feels good for you, free from shame, masking, or performing.
Reawaken — build a relationship with your own body and desire that feels alive, sustainable, and completely yours.
Single or partnered. This work starts with you.
"Bridie held the space to let me feel and the words to let me figure it out for myself and that was a massive thing."
Henna · 1:1 Intensive